Let’s talk about change…
Over the years, I have talked to thousands of people; nurses included, and heard every excuse possible.
Nurses (People) are scared of change.
Nah… they are terrified of change.
🔺 Afraid of what people will say when they change
🔺 Fearful of what people will think of them when they change
🔺 Afraid of what people will ask and not knowing the answer as they change
Fear of change is a huge emotion.
They WANT something different for their lives, and they want something different for their careers, but their human brain is naturally keeping them safe, and I want to dive deeper into why.
As I recall from nursing psychology class
The basics psychology is rooted in survival instincts to:
- Seek out pleasure, desire, comfort, and happiness
- Avoid pain
- Conserve energy
The pleasure part is what keeps us “safe.”
We naturally evolved to seek out comfort.
When we’re uncomfortably comfortable, we still gravitate towards “what’s familiar and comfy,” even if it’s not good for us because we attempt to avoid pain.
Our brains are wired to keep us safe from emotional and physical discomfort (pain)
All change requires uncomfortable actions and conversations, but many nurses fail to realize that the temporary discomfort of change that will GROW you is nothing compared to the pain of staying in a job sucking the life out of you for the rest of your life will bring!
I was burnt out. Going to work drained me. I came home daily with a headache and shoulder pain from tension and exhaustion.
My brain was wired to seek safety and avoid emotional and physical pain. I felt like I was shutting down.
We are wired to conserve energy and be efficient – seeking the path of least resistance (avoiding pain and staying comfortable).
All I wanted to do when I got home was sleep – but I still had a family that needed supper, clothes washed, and all the mom things.
This cycle keeps us where we are; it’s toxic jobs that are familiar but soul-sucking.
This is why Nurses (people) don’t make the time to sit down and search for jobs, update resumes, apply, interview, and move forward with change.
We seek what’s familiar, even if it hurts! I did this for 25 years!!! Knowing I needed to make a shift. I didn’t know what I wanted to do or how it would turn out. Sitting on the 11-7 shift one night, I was introduced to the network marketing industry.
We must fight the natural evolutionary tendencies created to keep us safe and ALIVE.
We are no longer cave dwellers. We have options.
We have options to change
Fear keeps us from doing what will GIVE us pleasure, comfort, and happiness in life (the opposite of what our brain is tricking us into doing to stay safe and away from that).
I was hoping you could take the necessary steps to change; I don’t mean quitting your job. I suggest adding something on the side to give you more than overtime.
There are Nurses out there who are not as intelligent, not as skilled as you, and not as talented as you, who are making MORE money & nailing awesome jobs and businesses ALL because they decided to show up and push through the discomfort.
It’s not about how qualified or intelligent you are; it’s about who dares to show up, ask the questions, and dive into the temporary emotional & physical pain that positive change requires!
If you are still reading – you are who I am talking to. Things you will need to learn, and the people you will need to meet. You know it is time, but you are holding back out of fear of the changes.
Stop being scared to make a change in your career! I look back over the last 8yrs and all the things we have done as a family, the trips we have taken, the people we have met, and the events I have been to.
Then I listen to the people I used to work with, who are still complaining about the same things they were 8 yrs ago.
Don’t let this be you next December.
This is YOUR sign. Before you make a move, fill this out. Let’s talk.
My friend, you are looking for something that I know for sure. Don’t worry – I will not beg you, try to trick you, or get you into something you are not ready for. But if you are still reading this… let’s talk.