I spent half of my life working in a psychic hospital. Literally half of my life. I started working as a 22-year-old angry bitter young woman who was newly divorced and dove into another relationship way to fast.
The atmosphere was stressful. The energy was dark. The employees were negative.
I fit right in.
Yes, I said that I fit in.
Patients were fighting the staff and I was right in the middle. We worked in such an unpredictable environment you never knew from one minute to the next what would happen.
It could be totally quiet and someone would snap.
I have been in more physical fights than most people who fight on the street. I have been spit on IN MY FACE. I have been pinched, scratched cussed, kicked, things thrown at me. I was called a bitch so much that I would correct them and let them know I was ‘Miss Bitch’ to them.
My life was a hot mess. My thinking was a hot mess. I couldn’t see anything more than repeating day in and day out what I was presently doing.
I was asking my chequebook what I could and could not do. It never gave me permission to be more than I already was.
You will attract who you are.
Look in the mirror.
Would you like 50 more of you tagging along?
Back when I started my business I was getting what I was putting out there and I was confused where all these negative broke people were coming from.
I was having conversations with people who agreed with my own negative talking patterns so like attracts like.
Then it happened to me.
I became very much like some of my own patients. My world flipped upside down. The advice I had always given to them I was now having to apply to my own life. What I found out was it was much harder than I expected it to be strong, move forward and never look back.
I became an abused woman.
I moved out less than 11 hours later with ALL my belongings.
I was crushed.
I felt lost.
I didn’t want to be in this position.
When I looked in the mirror and saw my black eye I couldn’t deny who I now was.
Follow a true leader
I changed how I talked to abused women. My words were softer, my advice was more understanding. My hugs were real. My tears were real when we talked. When I looked her in the eyes she knew I could see her.
I now understood the pain and how hard it was to walk away, and how hard change was.
Children make it harder.
I brought that advice into my business.
I only teach or talk about what I actually do. I won’t encourage anyone to do what I am not doing myself.
I had a friend challenge me to 100 days of video. I was not a fan of doing videos but I wasn’t scared of them either. The responses have been amazing.
You can follow my 100-day video challenge on my Facebook Page or on Youtube.
At the end of the 100-days, you will know your voice. You will see and hear what your followers need or respond too. Your confidence will change. I am seeing all these things already #48.
It’s ok to bring all of you to your business
I have found that people struggle with being their naturally designed self. They signed up for business and thought that had to become something else which caused them to feel uncomfortable.
When people say you have to get uncomfortable in business they think it is only about talking to people about their products.
Most of the time it is about us becoming 100% ok with who we are and bring that to business.
Because I didn’t want to be listed as abused women I didn’t talk about it. Wonder if my business success encouraged women in that situation now to get enough strength to get out.
Wonder if she made enough money on the side that she felt she could take care of herself or even her kids.
Wonder if your experiences clicked with someone who needed you exactly the way you are and saw what you are doing helped them know they could too.
I know it all sounds so fairytale-like.
Wonder if it worked.
When I looked in the mirror back in 1997 I didn’t want a group of people following me like that broken girl.
In 2020, I would love to have a following of the determination that the girl gained to be who she is today. They told her she couldn’t be who she is today. She smiled and nodded her head.
Today they are asking how she did it.
My name is Angela Brooks I’m from Kentucky. I am a mama who built a big business part-time on my lunch break blogging and using social media until I was able to retire from 30 yrs of nursing while working ‘power hours’ part-time from home. Thank you in advance for sharing this Post.
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