Actually a three day stretch off was hard to enjoy because you knew that you still had to go back. The overwhelm dread was not just in me… but all around me, in my co-workers. Day after day they walked back in a door that made some angry just going in. The bitterness on the tongue of the co-workers dripped onto you even if you were doing your best to stay positive.
The environment is toxic.
Why will people not change the atmosphere around them when it makes them feel so sad?
* Habit
* Security
* Fear of the unknown
* Change
* Routine
* Starting over
Bad habits interrupt your life and prevent you from accomplishing your goals. They jeopardize your health — both mentally and physically. And they waste your time and energy. But what do we do?
After two days of board room time where we filled our brains with amazing ideas and task to put in place when we got home we had to have an “fun day” to hang out and enjoy the company. Isn’t it funny how in our own business we forget to schedule fun time or time off. I am guilty of that too and have now added that to my calendar.
Another eye opening test that was given to me that took me a few days to really process and mull over was customers and clients that I want to work with. What does my ideal client look like – who are they and how will we treat each other. People so often think that because I have my doors open means that I have to work with them because they found me and I am perfect for what they are looking for.
This is a habit all business owners need to break – we choose to be in business to be happy and in order to be happy we find people that we enjoy to spend time with, including our clients. One of the best take aways from my mastermind is hand picking who we allow to be in our life. Sounds simple doesn’t it? Sometimes that can be a hard test.
After being on the road for 4 days and ready to be at home to see my family, the test started sooner than I imagined. I opened my email and was blasted from a person who told me what I had done to them and how I was “expected” to perform. The demands caused me to act very human and I got mad just like you would have done too but I took a deep breath sat back to think about the response. After reading the finger pointing and demands more than once I knew what I would say in return. “Thank you for choosing me your not my ideal client at this time.” Even those type of clients teach us something about who we are, and what we want our life to look like. It is also those times we find out who our friends are, they are the ones that hold us up – encourage and allow us to lean on them until we can catch our breath and shift.
In 2014 I am beginning to pre-plan a mastermind of my own with a very hand picked and special group of people who will have spent 6 months with me in a coaching program. The last thing I would want to expose my clients too is one unhappy person who could ruin the whole weekend.
Building a business is building a life you want to live – it is a journey of the unknown that is scary and excited at the same time. Just when you think you found a comfortable spot to sit something shifts and you move forward.
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Great post, Angela. So honest- and so true! I can totally relate to a lot that you have shared. I too was blasted by someone who demanded I never ever send them an email on a certain day. I realized that this person would never be one who would work with me, buy from me, or even read what I had to offer. So instead of responding I just cleared them from my email list. I felt liberated, happier, and proud of myself. This was a total change for me since the ‘old’ me would have gotten upset and probably changed my business plan to suit that one person’s needs. Gosh- that could be a lot of changing around to suit everyone else’s needs! Thank you for reminding us to listen to our own needs first! Elizabeth
Very well said 🙂 That gives me some ideas for my own business plan. Thank you so much!!