As I was leaving work, on a fall afternoon. The leaves were changing colors and the wind was much cooler than the weeks before. I was tired and had my head leaned into my hand on the door waiting on traffic.
I rolled my eyes to the left catching the face of someone peering out of the police car sitting next to me. Her hand was resting on the window of the door. Her fingers hooked into the seal of the window. Our eyes met and I recognized the smile that was beaming at me. She raised her hand and waved with two fingers. I did the same back. She lipped the words “I am going home” followed with a huge smile. I spoke back to her as if she could hear me through the two glass windows and distance of the vehicles. “I am proud you! I hope you do well.” With a soft smile on her face her closed her eyes and gave her head a nod as to say Thank you. The traffic cleared and the police car pulled on the highway speeding off. I sat still watching them drive away.
Have you ever thought about who we influence? We all influence someone. Even when we do not know that we are doing anything at all other than being ourselves. You may never have a conversation with another person to influence, but your presence touches them, or maybe how they see you treat other people.
As a seasoned nurse I have touched many lives as well as many life’s have touched mine. In a profession that is about people we are influencing those around use with spoken and unspoken words. I have had many patients during a crisis relax when they see me coming on to their unit because they are seeing a face they know – or they remember how I treated them before. It is the best feeling to have a patient walk up to you after many months of not seeing them not doing well – to the excitement of going home.
There are three ways to positively influence people with your actions
1. Role Model what you want to see from other people
2. Become the person that people come too
3. Influence People by Going Out of Your Way to Be Generous
People love to work with leaders who commit to relationships that has clarity, being consistent. You are in control of your own emotions. By maintaining and staying calm you’re creating a productive and positive environment. People watch what you do under stress – they are looking for a leader. When you are in the presence of negative energy – do not match it with more negative energy. Stay in the presence of your own mind and remain calm.
Fill you time with people who are positive and who reinforce who you want to be. Spend your time with people who lift you up – encourage others and are positive. The back biting, gossiping, jealousy and general negative people will talk about you just like the ones they are venting to you about when you leave.
In the year 2011 – I spend my time once a week on a tele-call with 16 amazing thinking people and a positive coach who would immediately stop us in our tracts when she heard doubt or a negative statement arise. Who I spend my time with in 2011 gave me the courage to step out of my own comfort zone and do things that I had only dreamed of. It felt very uncomfortable in the beginning but I had people in my life helping me push through that sweaty palm, anxiety, and heart palpating feeling.
We all have fears. Every single person is afraid of something. Most of us are terrified of many things. But these fears, these anxieties can be blessings. When we overcome that which gives us anxiety, we prove our strength. We weren’t meant to live in fear. The biggest fear most people have is living the life we were designed to live. Figuring all that out takes someone who can look into your life from the outside, that is what I am now doing for other nurses who are burntout. Did you see how?
Angela was voted 110th Leading Moms in Business she is also Silver Director for her achievement of being the first Young Living Distributor to build a solid Silver 2nd level Team Performance and over 20,000 in volume without using the phone. She is setting a model of how to build relationships online, through social media, blogging and email. Check out her website at www.angelabrook.com